Steve says single ladies do need to set standards. You've got to have them. You've got to know what you're looking for," he says. Before you get discouraged, Steve reminds women to stay patient and remember that real men aren't afraid of standards and requirements. He's coming. He's out there. He's already created. God has already made him," he says. He's wearing the clothes you like. He's walking around.
You're not waiting on him to be born. He exists today. All you've got to do is stay patient. Why do many successful, independent women have a hard time finding love? There are millions of smart, beautiful women around the world who can't figure out why they're unlucky in love, including a group of friends from New York.
Steve is here to set them straight. Steve says many successful women dated good men but didn't know it at the time. Even if you look like a million bucks -- and you have a few million in the bank -- Steve says a woman needs to know how a man shows his love.
It's all about the "three P's. If you've got everything, you can do everything, you've got your own car The guy is thinking, 'Where do I fit in here? Steve doesn't advise women to downplay their success or pack up their designer shoes. Instead, he says strong women have to walk a thin line. I've got this. Why don't a man just come to me?
If you're projecting it, where does a man fit in there? Just relax. After a few dates, some guys just stop returning calls and texts. Even if they aren't interested, don't they want closure?
Steve has a simple answer to this question And you know why? Because we don't even know you're having an issue. We're stupid. Listen, it's not in our DNA as great communicators anyway," he says. Bring it on. If you want closure, close.
Move on with your life. How important is sex in a relationship? Sex, or "the cookie" as Steve calls it in his book, is a major point of contention for many couples. If you don't think it's important to your man, Steve says you're wrong. A man has to have love, support and the cookie.
Michele found out her boyfriend of many years was cheating after he told her he was ready to settle down and get married. The male mind may be a mystery to women, but Steve says there's a simple explanation for this behavior. If he's going to cheat, it has nothing to do with his emotional attachment to you or his feelings for you.
I never knew how to explain it. The older I got and the more time I spent with myself, I started thinking, Wow, man, I'm just grinding right now. I'm really trying to develop who I am, what I do and how much I make. And unless a man gets those things lined up in his mind, until a man is secure in that, he can never be to a woman what she needs him to be, because he's missing some major components from his own personal life. See pictures of the 20th century's greatest romances.
Why do you think so many women who want to be married aren't? Here's what's happened over the years. Women's standards and requirements have lowered. And as men, we know that. We have taken advantage of it.
We've created terms that we feed to women that allow us to exist as we do. We created the term nagging. There's really no such thing as nagging. As soon as a woman starts registering her complaint, we call it nagging. We let you know it will drive us away. We created another term. When you first meet a man, so you don't ask a lot of personal questions and questions about his business, we created the term gold digger.
But we created the term gold digger, so now, because you don't want to be known as a gold digger, you never ask a man anything. You don't require anything of a man. So many standards have been lowered by women that now a man doesn't have to climb over a very high bar to get to her.
So now you have more men who can get away with more things with more women without any repercussions. In your chapter on affairs, you say that women have to take some responsibility when men cheat. Have any women taken issue with that? Not yet. I'm pretty sure they're coming. I tried to release women, to let them know that usually when your man cheats it has nothing to do with you initially. We men try to use you to justify what we're doing, but it's usually that we don't have ourselves together.
But there are some things women do to contribute to this. I have a chapter in the book talking about what a man has to have: support, loyalty and "the cookie" [sex]. If any of those things are missing, he's going somewhere to get it, because he has to have it.
I try to tell people how important sex is to a man. All you gotta do is look at prisons. That's the roughest analogy I can give. If it's not happening at home, he's going to get it somewhere.
He's just not that good of a guy that he's going to sit there and do without it. And a lot of times men cheat because there are so many women out there willing to cheat. I know that answer doesn't fare well with women. But we're very simple creatures. I told HarperCollins, this book could actually be about 35 pages. Because we're guys. We are that simple.
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